What makes one-night-stand so tempting?
一夜情真的有那么爽吗？！
One small survey here before you start reading my essay: did you ever try one-night-stand? Well, you don’t have to let us know your secret. I just want us to do a little self-reflection. I believe we are educated enough to carry out some real soul-searching and hopefully my writing here can, more or less, facilitate it.
中间这里有很长的一段.写得还算精彩.但是这个论坛不让我发上来.说什么有不良内容,我真的没有.有的只是对事实的描述和分析.算了,还是删了.IT'S IN CHINA
It’s no new to you, is it? I am sure you have your own stories of your first time. It is true that most gay people start their gay life from one-night-stands. And one-night-stands prevail nowadays. This has, funnily enough, boosted the hotel industry and the local economy as a whole. The other day, a straight friend of mine who works for a hotel shared with me her experiences of witnessing one gay guy open a room and another guy follow suit sneaking into the room. After they left the room, used condoms were all over the trash bin. I could not help laughing when my friend talked about all of that. For one night stands, finding a decent place with a cozy bed is one of the most concerned questions people ask.
With that, let’s go over to our discussion today about one-night-stand, its cause and effect and beyond.
It is no doubt that many gay people are crazy about one-night-stands. Even the moment I am writing this, I’m sure there must be some people trying that somewhere in China or in the globe. I hazard to say that over 60% people on the chat room are hunting for sex. Yes, SEX.
Is it right to do so?
Of course NOT. Let’s cool down and think about it. Why does it happen so often? Why don’t we stop it? What are the root causes of its widespread? What can be done to curb all of this?
Here is my rough list of the reasons why one-night-stand is so attractive to people.
1)
Human instinct. There is nothing wrong with sex itself if it happens with the right person at the right place and at the right time. Without sex we human have no way whatsoever to pass down from one generation to another. Nor would our civilization. When a normal gay guy sees a pleasantly handsome cutie, the hormone in the body just reacts naturally to the excitement brought by the good-looking face and no doubt your dick will erect, as hard as rock. It is no shame to realize this. And we have the animal instinct. Gay people have even a stronger one. When there is no moral restriction and when the animal instinct takes the upper hand, one night stand becomes one way of entertaining for gay people. And this is way too dangerous, both physically and mentally.
2)
Addiction. We human rely a lot on habits. Once we do something repeatedly and get used to that, we live with it and our nerve system takes it for granted that it has been an indispensable part of our lives. And it is actually an illusion. We can get rid of it if we are determined to end it. We can also call this an addiction. It’s the same case with drug-taking. For today’s topic, one night stand has been an addiction to some group of people. They just want to try it each and every day. If they do not do it, they feel they have lost something for their lives. Their body feels upset. For those people, I think they need to see a doctor if they themselves are not able to break the vicious cycle. We do need the assistance from professional therapists.
3)
Peer pressure. In western countries, it’s very common to see people compete drinking in a bar, especially among young folks. For example, if guy A can drink 6 bottles of beer, then guy B try very hard to drink even more, say, 7 bottles, so as to show he is a better drinker. According to sociologist, we have impact on each other in our social interaction. By the same token, we gay people influence each other in one way or another. When we go to the chat room figuring out the community is dominated by one night stand, we just stop thinking and join them in trying it ourselves as well. Otherwise we wrongly think we jump out of the bandwagon.
4)
Instability of relationship. Another vital element that makes many gay people resort to one night stand is that they feel desperate about their relationship. They feel it next to impossible to find an ideal life partner. Betray has been anything but a shame. People do things behind their partner’s backs. The instability of relationship leads to the eruption of the sexual volcano. Conversely, straight people are a different story. They mostly stay loyal to their boyfriends and girlfriends. Because their relationships are much more stable. If they fool around, they will be criticized by the society.
5)
Media influence. Our mass media also holds some responsibility for the popularity of one-night-stands. It includes TV, magazines, newspapers, movies, and internet and so on. They sometimes give wrong image to the gay community. They try to portrait western society as a sex-open world. One night stand has been very common there and nothing is wrong with that. Actually this is not the case. That’s why lots of people relax their moral integrity. Instead they indulge themselves to sex and try to find a good reason to comfort themselves when they feel guilty.
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Internet. Last but not least, Internet plays a very crucial role in promoting one night stands among gay people. With internet, we have a perfect platform to exchange information with people from any part of the globe. Geographical distance has been shortened to zero. We are merely a click away from each other. Whenever you want one night stand, you can lure some guy who has the same need with you. Sex can happen very soon. Of course you have to send a nice picture or you have a web camera to showcase your face to the other part. It’s just that simple. Internet has been misused here.
In some way, one night stands characterize gay population. It’s not a glory but a shame. Up now, the rest of the society probably has no idea of how casual we are in sex and how dirty some gay are. So stop it right now,or we'll have a notorious reputation in our society.Do not wait till it's too late.And our parents would cry to death if they knew their sons are messing around in cold blood. Do not get them down. They are the only people who are always with us.
If you think that way, one night stand isn’t that tempting, is it?
[ 本帖最后由 Inn-club 于 2007-7-5 22:53 编辑 ] |
